tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1135874833991283867.post2641793242340323879..comments2023-11-02T08:16:33.716-04:00Comments on What You're Not Expecting When You're Trying to Expect: The Verdict Is In, Another Sleepless Night & The Joys of Pregnant FriendsLeslie Lainehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07978669963745464690noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1135874833991283867.post-47725726889747348532008-09-01T12:32:00.000-04:002008-09-01T12:32:00.000-04:00I am so glad that I haven't had to be an active pa...I am so glad that I haven't had to be an active participant in a baby shower during all of this. The only baby shower I have been invited too, I ditched...I said I wasn't feeling well, which was actually the truth. Other than that, if a pregnant friend is being a "good ivf" friend to me, I try and be a good "pregnancy friend" to them. Otherwise, if they don't know about ivf or if they say stupid things like "It only took us one try to get pregnant, that's just how it is in our family," I just avoid them. One thing I've learned through all this is my limits. I hope the shower planning is not too much of a hardship for you...it's important that you are as mentally stable and psychologically content as possible during ivf!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1135874833991283867.post-44638432459255046272008-08-25T15:04:00.000-04:002008-08-25T15:04:00.000-04:00Hey doll...Hope you have gotten some sleep since y...Hey doll...<BR/>Hope you have gotten some sleep since your last post. Girl, I do remember those sleepless nights and they are definitely no fun. I am still praying for you all and know that God does indeed have great things planned for you and L. I pray that He will reveal His plan to you soon. I know it's tough...the horomones...night sweats...insomnia...racing thoughts...frustrations with pregnant people, etc. Just keep blocking out all the negative people...they are just a waste of energy at this point. Hang in there. I'll keep hitting my knees for you! Love ya!<BR/>Jmommy of girlshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06432037283039712474noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1135874833991283867.post-24697774186890743102008-08-25T13:49:00.000-04:002008-08-25T13:49:00.000-04:00Isn't it a great feeling when all the blood work t...Isn't it a great feeling when all the blood work tests out? I was relieved and amused all at the same time. Like, of course I don't have that? (say in valley girl voice)<BR/><BR/>I hope your friends visit went well - better than you hoped at least. I haven't had too many people remotely understand what I'm going through. But thank goodness the handful that have, have been great. <BR/><BR/>**HUGS**I Believe in Miracleshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07062124038472752680noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1135874833991283867.post-9782011768116369772008-08-25T12:26:00.000-04:002008-08-25T12:26:00.000-04:00Congrats on passing the Clomid Challenge. I hope t...Congrats on passing the Clomid Challenge. <BR/><BR/>I hope that you can salvage these friendships. Just my point of view, for what it's worth, IVF friend seems like she is trying to be helpful. Depending on the relationship, I would probably want to have a one on one chat just to talk things out.Joyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17990774863319269154noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1135874833991283867.post-19641567241849225432008-08-25T11:14:00.000-04:002008-08-25T11:14:00.000-04:00Happy to hear about the test results!The fear you'...Happy to hear about the test results!<BR/><BR/>The fear you're having is totally normal...I remember that fear. I hate that you're losing sleep over it. The shots ended up being a piece of cake for me and I'm sure they will be for you as well. Once you get that first one out of the way, you'll feel like a pro. :) <BR/><BR/>As for the friend issue...I would hate for you to lose a friendship that you've had for so long. I found there were very few that I could be totally honest about my feelings and those few were the ones that I confided in. The rest, I just did normal girlfriend stuff with...which was a nice get-away from the IVF world I was living in everyday. :) <BR/><BR/>Praying for you, girl...<BR/><BR/>Hang in there, it will all work out.<BR/><BR/>((HUGS))Jillhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02624579268277066653noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1135874833991283867.post-39817367593026988732008-08-24T21:12:00.000-04:002008-08-24T21:12:00.000-04:00Hmmmmm.... Maybe you can take a break form these t...Hmmmmm.... Maybe you can take a break form these two relationships until you feel the need to connect with them again. It's never fun to have to "force" yourself to go out with people. And often, they feel the strain too. Maybe tell them you need some space, if you feel comfortable saying something like that.Hope2morrowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00196437847799474686noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1135874833991283867.post-40260816134608165882008-08-24T18:01:00.000-04:002008-08-24T18:01:00.000-04:00I know what ya mean...my friends without kids are ...I know what ya mean...my friends without kids are so much more understanding. I think it is because they don't know yet if they will end up in my shoes one day. Sorry they are not so encouraging. Sending you some HUGS and tons of Encouragement!!!Danahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14212576846634450737noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1135874833991283867.post-32391467308605828142008-08-24T14:16:00.000-04:002008-08-24T14:16:00.000-04:00The test results sound really encouraging. Hope it...The test results sound really encouraging. Hope it all works and your pregnant friends become 'Mummy friends' who you are glad you stuck with when you bring your kid round for play dates!Lizhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07336643483655255680noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1135874833991283867.post-12234124413812819262008-08-24T14:11:00.000-04:002008-08-24T14:11:00.000-04:00first: glad to hear that all the bloodwork checked...first: glad to hear that all the bloodwork checked out perfectly.<BR/><BR/>second: "unexplained" diagnoses suck to all hell, and you have my sympathies.<BR/><BR/>third: Dude, I hate when friends project their own thoughts onto your experiences. I was telling my husband last night that I didn't want to listen to any of that garbage either, and he's all, "but they just want to show sympathy," and I was all, grumble grumble FUCK OFF grumble. So, yea. Don't have any sage assvice or anything for you, just my sympathies.<BR/><BR/>Best of luck on the upcoming IVF. Scary, but thrilling. Definitely surreal.Pennyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02864909952004392637noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1135874833991283867.post-21733745095705227102008-08-24T13:17:00.000-04:002008-08-24T13:17:00.000-04:00Yikes -- that's not exactly helpful commentary fro...Yikes -- that's not exactly helpful commentary from your IVF friend. Maybe she thinks she's preparing you?Faithhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15886919296591229688noreply@blogger.com